June 27th, 2008

Life is Good

I had a tough conversation with an old friend yesterday. I hate it when my experience comes in handy, because it means that someone I know is suffering and really, no amount of experience has given me any clue about how to make someone else suffer less. It breaks my heart. I’m left with offering practical assistance and uncomfortable honesty and deep sympathy, none of which are all that helpful. Although just now, that offer of practical help panned out into an opportunity for me to hang out with an adorable toddler for a couple of hours. I might have to reconsider my jaundiced view that no good deed goes unpunished. Board books! Swings! Hooray!

My friend asked me if I am happier now. She saw me a lot Before and During, but due to various life changes for both of us, a lot less in the After. I think what she was actually asking was: Was it worth it, that whole thing where your life fell into a million pieces and your soul writhed around and you spent a lot of time staring at walls because that was about all you could manage safely?

Yes.

There is an e e cummings poem that thanks God for a lot of things, ending with the words, “for everything that is natural, that is infinite, that is yes! yes! yes! yes!” (Apologies in advance for whatever errors there are in that transcription from the Janet’s Abridged and Remembered Anthology… too lazy to go look it up.). I mean that “yes” up there in the paragraph all by itself in that way.

No apologies for what is to follow, because I have no shame. I am blessed. I have wonderful children, an ideal husband, a charmed life. I got here the long way, through my own personal brand of stupidity and it is entirely to the credit of a kind providence that I get to be here at all.

Life is good.