June 3rd, 2009

Life Is Pain, Princess

In the movie The Princess Bride, Inigo and Fezzik are told that if something goes wrong with their plan to go back to the beginning. Useful advice.

After the upheval of the last days, I am back to the beginning. I am focusing on the simple things, like cooking. Last night I grilled lamb chops. The recipe included a “chutney” with mangos and ginger and fresh mint. It smelled wonderful. I don’t have chef-like skills with a knife, so the concentration I need to use to dice a mango forces me to focus on the present moment. That is how I notice how mangos have a sort of grain to them, a woody tendency to split when the knife is not perfectly sharp. This morning, I filled the slow cooker with ingredients for Italian pork stew, measuring out a second portion of herbs and spices to add at the end, opening a good bottle of wine to give the stew its flavor and me a glass at dinner.

I went to a new yoga class, where I had to move my body in less-familiar ways. I breathed. I opened. I felt pain in my hips that was a welcome change from pain in my heart. With more stretching, the pain in my hips eased.

Next, I will start the day’s laundry and tidy up my desk.

Food, breath, cleanliness. Back to the beginning. Where I can find the Man in Black to lead me to victory.

Please help stand up for ALL kids

So I got this in my email and I’m passing it along. I emailed the contacts listed and I voted that the hosts were totally out of line on the radio station’s website (Scroll down to see where to vote.)

All the stuff after the asterisks is copied with slight editing for length from the email I got.


Call to Action

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

TAKE ACTION: Demand that KRXQ Radio Hosts Rob Williams and Arnie
 States Apologize for Encouraging Violence Against Transgender Children

In a lengthy May 28 tirade on the Rob, Arnie & Dawn in
the Morning radio show heard in Sacramento, California on KRXQ 98.5 FM
and Reno, Nevada on KDOT 104.5 FM, hosts Rob Williams and Arnie States
verbally attacked transgender children. While discussing a recent
story about a transgender child in Omaha, Nebraska and her parents'
decision to support her transition, the two hosts spent more than 30
minutes explicitly promoting child abuse of and making cruel,
dehumanizing and defamatory comments toward transgender children.

You can listen to the entire segment beginning at 4:48 by clicking this 

Among the comments made by the hosts:

ROB WILLIAMS [11:12]: This is a weird person who is demanding
attention. And when it's a child, all it takes is a hug, maybe some
tough love or anything in between. When your little boy said, ‘Mommy,
I want to walk around in a dress.' You tell them no cause that's not
what boys do. But that's not what we're doing in this culture.

ARNIE STATES [13:27]: If my son, God forbid, if my son put on a pair
of high heels, I would probably hit him with one of my shoes. I would
throw a shoe at him. Because you know what? Boys don't wear high
heels. And in my house, they definitely don't wear high heels.

ROB WILLIAMS [17:45]: Dawn, they are freaks. They are abnormal. Not
because they're girls trapped in boys bodies but because they have a
mental disorder that needs to be somehow gotten out of them. That's
where therapy could help them.

ROB WILLIAMS [18:15]: Or because they were molested. You know a lot of
times these transgenders were molested. And you need to work with them
on that. The point is you don't allow the behavior. You cure the

ARNIE STATES [21:30]: You got a boy saying, ‘I wanna wear dresses.'
I'm going to look at him and go, ‘You know what? You're a little
idiot! You little dumbass! Look, you are a boy! Boys don't wear

ARNIE STATES [29:22]: You know, my favorite part about hearing these
stories about the kids in high school, who the entire high school
caters around, lets the boy wear the dress. I look forward to when
they go out into society and society beats them down. And they end up
in therapy.

To her credit, co-host Dawn Rossi stood up to Williams and States
during the segment.
Despite her apparent lack of familiarity with transgender issues,
Rossi repeatedly defended transgender people and made an on-air
apology for her colleagues' defamatory remarks.

Please contact KRXQ management in Sacramento, California, where the
show is produced and demand that radio show hosts Rob Williams and
Arnie States publicly apologize. Call on KRXQ to hold Williams and
States accountable for their remarks and establish clear standards to
ensure their media platform will not be used to condone or promote
violence against any parts of the communities they serve.


John Geary

Vice President & General Manager


(916) 339-4209


Arnie States

On Air Personality


(916) 334-7777


Rob Williams

On Air Personality


(916) 334-7777


For more information, please visit www.glaad.org

Follow Up to My Previous Post

Here is a list of the sponsors for the radio station mentioned in my previous post, copied and pasted from an email I received after the asterisks:


Somebody on the CNMC Topica list asked about the advertisers for this
radio station and how to contact them with copies of our complaints. I
just posted this:


I found a website where someone posted the sponsors for this radio


The original source for that appears to be here: http://www.krxq.net/pages/293097.php

Below are the sponsors they listed, along with their websites... note
that one of them, Chipotle, has already pulled all their advertising
in response to complaints about the show. They did so even before
today's non-apology.

At least one of the larger sponsors, BofA, actually might care about
their image in the LGBT community. They have a high rating in the
HRC's Corporate Equality Index. (For info about that, see here: http://www.hrc.org/issues/cei.htm
... Note the "Search Our Employer Database link.)

The list of 98 Rock's advertisers:

Snapple - http://www.drpeppersnapplegroup.com/consumer-relations/

Sonic - http://www.sonicdrivein.com/business/contactUs.jsp

Griffin & Reed Eyecare - http://www.lasikworld.com/contact.html

Chipotle (kudos to these guys!) - http://www.chipotle.com/#flash/

Carl's Jr. - http://www.carlsjr.com/contact/

Albertson's - http://www.supervalu.com/sv-webapp/contact/contact.jsp

Nissan - http://www.nissanusa.com/apps/contactus

Wells Fargo - http://www.wellsfargo.com/

Red Bull - http://www.redbullusa.com/#page=CompanyPage.Contact

Roseville Auto Mall - http://www.rosevilleautomall.com/index.cfm

Bank of America - http://www.bankofamerica.com
(also see contact information at the bottom of the HRC page for BofA,
under Employee Resource Groups: http://www.hrc.org/issues/workplace/organization_profile.asp?organization_id=1141&search_id=1&search_type=Quick

Verizon - http://www.verizon.com/
(and HRC page: http://www.hrc.org/issues/workplace/organization_profile.asp?organization_id=1826&search_id=1&search_type=Quick)

ATT - http://www.att.com/
(and HRC page: http://www.hrc.org/issues/workplace/organization_profile.asp?organization_id=1417&search_id=1&search_type=Quick

UC Davis Health System - http://www.ucdmc.ucdavis.edu/contactus/

Lennar Homes - http://www.lennar.com/contact/contact.aspx

Pro City Mortgage - http://www.procitymortgage.com/contact.php

State Farm - http://www.statefarm.com/
(HRC page: http://www.hrc.org/issues/workplace/organization_profile.asp?organization_id=1497&search_id=1&search_type=Quick

Jared, The Galleria of Jewelers - http://www.jared.com